First Date Advice For Guys

Published: 15th April 2009
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Many single guys feel that first dates are times of great stress. For a guy that has not been on a date for a while it's especially so.

Not knowing what to talk about with a near stranger you know next to nothing about can cause a lot of fear. Concerns about a disastrous date can also cause stress.

A good way of dealing with this stress is knowing what is expected of you on a first date. Here's a few first date pointers:

1.) Seeing a movie is not a good plan. Why is this? Because it's extremely hard to get to know someone when you're watching a movie and can't talk.

An equally important reason is that it's dull and mundane. It's your stereotypical date, everyone does this.

Dates centered around an activity can be great fun. You could go to a concert, an amusement park, hiking, a driving range, or going to a softball game. For a great outing you should find out about what your date is interested in.

Getting a bite to eat is a good plan after the activity is over. Avoid going to an expensive restaurant since it will seem as if you're trying very hard to buy or impress her.

2.) Clean and attractive clothing are essential. Your date may become a disaster zone if you make a bad first impression. The type of clothing you wear is decided by what you'll do on your date.

It's a sure thing that a woman will take notice of your shoes, so wear a good pair.

3.) Before the date, put some thought into a general plan about your conversation. Don't give the impression of being dull because of too many silences. Engage in small talk about something on her person or of interest in the immediate environment.

The conversation can be steered to getting to know each other when the two of you are more comfortable. Learn what you share in common by asking open ended questions and listening very carefully.

A balance between talking and listening is necessary for a good conversation. If you do nothing but ask questions then the date becomes an interview. If she can't get a word in because you're talking too much then you learn nothing about her and she gets turned off.

4.) Bear with me on this obvious suggestion but there are many who are clueless about this: don't neglect personal hygiene. A shower, shave, deodorant, cleaned teeth, and mouthwash are the basics. Don't let a case of nerves or time pressure cause you to skip this.

Too much nervousness on a first date is not good because she will take it to mean that you have no confidence. A relaxed state will make your date feel more comfortable and thus make it easier to connect with her. Don't put yourself under pressure by having big expectations on where the date will lead. You are going on a date with an interesting person, so have fun.

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